I’ve been observing grief and I think the mind is very powerful. People walking around in a daze, staring off somewhere, their minds flashing, searching, grasping at pleasant and unpleasant memories. Its like our minds have to catalogue everything at once to determine what our memory will be of this person. Some little (or big) part of our soul that is lost. The spectrum of emotions from joy to profound sorrow are there in people’s faces, but the mind has taken hold. Protecting, I think.
** A friend emailed this morning and this was part of my response
April 7, 2008 at 8:39 am
Oh, Jessica…this is heart-wrenching. And I think you are right about the cataloguing…
I am not there, I didn’t even know Kraven, but I know and love her parents and extended family and I am so sad for your heart-ache. My chest is tight in empathy, my heart is full of cherishing my kids…thinking, “what would I do? what would I do?!”…ugh! Please continue to share your thoughts if you’re up to it.